Hello world, hope all is well with you and yours. I would like to ask all of you a seemingly simple question; yet, complex in relation to ones personal needs and wants. When it comes to the age difference between you and your spouse, "does age matter"?

My first thought from a subjective perspective, is that age should never be a factor, however, I must consider age when it pertains to health and the confidence of a love interest. For example, there are two women that I have an interest in. The first is twenty-five years of age and the other is in her mid-forties. At this point I am not in love with either woman as I have not allowed myself to focus on either beyond casual dating. However, both women have unique qualities that I admire and find extremely attractive.

My concern regarding the elder of the two ladies is her health in relation to children. I currently have no children and would eventually entertain the possibility with the right woman. The younger lady is extremely ambitious and has a more active personality to share. My age falls in the middle of them, which possess no issues for either of the two. Respectfully, I'll not pursue both women, as I would prefer being in a monogamous relationship.

On another note, I would like to know how age plays a part in seasoned relationships. I would like to think that if married, I would remain so for the rest of my life. So, what would life be like twenty years from now? Just last week I attended a fraternity function where in conversation I learned that several of my frat-brothers have been married for thirty plus years (one of which has been married for fifty plus). What was apparent is that they all were very similar in age, which seems to work well, as they all shared qualities conducive to their age group.

As some of you know, those of you who read my weekly articles. I didn't grow up in a traditional household until I was seventeen. My foster parents are a great example of a loving couple who share many joys together, yet, they are comparable in age. Their main concern nowadays are grand children. I have no example of couples with a significant age difference. So, my thoughts are mixed. Should I be concerned or am I being too analytical?

Anyway, I leave you with this question in hopes to discover an answer soon; does age matter, when it comes to relationships that have the potential of marriage?

Last update: 11-27-2008 12:31

Published in : Op-Ed, Noetic to The Third Power

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