I don't claim to have all the ingredients of loves emotional cocktail, because there is no doubt the cocktails differs from person to person. But some mix of oxytocm and endorphins are clearly pivotal to the feeling of love. Conjuring up feelings of fuzziness and warmth, the sense of bring where you are supposed to be, or oneness with the universe. No single element has tantalized and tormented the human mind and heart more than love. Action best speaks the language of love. The more we understand this the more clearly we will see the realities of the world and will be better equipped to deal with life and love. The less clearly we see the realities of this language the more our minds will be befuddled by falsehoods misperceptions and illusions of love--unable to determine correct courses of action.
Love is an emotion, emotions are, in essence, impulse to act, the instant plans for handing life. The very root of the word emotion is motere, the Latin verb "To move," plus the prefix "e"- to connote "move away," suggesting that a tendency to act is implicit in every emotion. I am particularly fond of another term I've heard to describe the word emotion; energy in motion.
Love is not a passive state it is an active force, it is the force of the soul. Most of the glue that keeps a loving relationship tight comes from routine interaction. Humans don't come preassembled by love, but are glue together by actions and each time one of us is constructed a different result occurs. There are many forms of love and ways to love. Yet, love is to large or deep to ever be truly understood or measured or limited within the frame work of words. I think its best understood when represented by actions. Even though falling in love is not a act of will, and is not a conscious choice. No matter how open to or eager for it we may be, the experience may still escape us contrarily, the experience may capture us at times when we are definitely not seeking it. When it is inconvenient and undesirable. I'm incline to believe that falling in love is a trick that our genes pull on our otherwise perceptive mind to hoodwink or trap us into marriage a stereotypical response to human being configuration of internal sexual drives and external sexual stimuli which serves to increase the probability of sexual pairing and bonding, so as to achieve the survival of the species. I further believe that if you cannot activity love yourself. You cannot activity love others and you cannot stand to see other loved. If you cannot love yourself, loving others becomes a very painful endeavor with only occasional moments of comfort. In other words, loving other, or how you treat yourself, is your own dose of your own medicine that you really give to other at the same time. You have to love yourself even on the days you may hate life. The catch is, to transmit the highest frequency of love, you must love yourself, and that can be difficult for many. If you focus on the outside and what you see now, you may trip yourself up. Because what you see and feel about you now is the result of what you used to think. If you don't love you, the person you see now is likely to be full of faults that you have found in yourself.
Just as actions is the most important element in love. Inaction can be the most destructive element. Action is the mechanism that best regulate the bonds of love. A love that cannot be certified by any academic degrees only by our actions. It may appear to some that I'm re-coloring the rainbow or taking something magical and reducing it to acts or action. But this is how I see it. The emotions and feelings in individuals brains and hearts are of course more complicated then this theory of action that I've use to describe it. I only hope that you have enjoyed partaking in the love of which these action pack words are the carriers.
Jeorald Pitts/Lil Tone is author of the book To Bang or Not to Bang a book of question now available at www.tobangornottobang.com, or preferred on line retailer.